tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3301903742106059792.post2682837096308119376..comments2021-03-06T16:13:54.732-05:00Comments on Michelle <br>Finally living as the girl inside!: A little clarification on the current state of meMichelle Leannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03974476216062970448noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3301903742106059792.post-39063757103235356242011-07-09T04:24:20.480-04:002011-07-09T04:24:20.480-04:00As Lady Jane says there will have to come a point ...As Lady Jane says there will have to come a point that you make a 'no look back' decisiom. Clearly this flip/flop life isn;t working for you - and I can't believe its helping your family. There will be challenges ahead for sure, and you will possibly hurt those who love you - but no one said transition was easy - else we would have all done it by now. You just need to believe that 'fixing' you is the right decision. I think the last thing that anyone would want would be for you to spend the rest of your life unhappy wondering what if !<br /><br />You have come a long way - keep the faith<br /><br />BeccaBeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342124169953960479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3301903742106059792.post-37694804289423493922011-07-08T09:51:14.331-04:002011-07-08T09:51:14.331-04:00Wow. Very well put. For whatever it's worth,...Wow. Very well put. For whatever it's worth, I am going through the exact same thing. I am Jane, but my male persona has feet firmly planted in the world that are hard to uproot without hurting the ones I love. And it is tough to switch back and forth which is why Jane hasn't been around for a while. I have a lot of male-centric activities this summer (including a boys only baseball road trip with my two sons and some work with a civic organization whose name I will keep secret because they don't like people like us) and I can't deal with the stress of switching it on and off. <br /><br />So hang in there girl, but you will have to make a "no look back" decision at some point (like me) whether it be to remain as Bob, become Michelle, or find some happy middle ground.Lady Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02601946075186829258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3301903742106059792.post-75202420491902785502011-07-07T18:13:01.097-04:002011-07-07T18:13:01.097-04:00If you reread my comment, you will notice that I d...If you reread my comment, you will notice that I did <i>not</i> say it was obvious that "the whole Michelle thing" is not working for you. I asked questions. I wondered about alternatives to full-on sex change.<br /><br />Only you know whether this is right for you. Certainly not me. And this is important: <b>Your threapists don't know either.</b> Whether one or both of them think you are really Michelle is worth more than whether I do, but it's worth much, much less than whether <b>you</b> thing and feel so. They do not know! Only you know.<br /><br />You are the only one who can know. You are the only one who is responsible for your own decisions. You are the one who will live with the consequences of whatever you choose. It's <i>your</i> life.<br /><br />I changed sex because it was obvious to me that I had to. It took a long time to become obvious to me, and there was some anxiety leading up to that certainty, but once I knew, I knew. As much as I loved my very long time partner, fixing me came first. I was lucky that she decided to stay. And we do not have children. I understand and support your sense of responsibility. I know nothing of what it's like to have my own children.<br /><br />But really, once I knew, I knew. And I never looked back. But I would never have proceeded unless I had been certain -- both in my head and in my heart.<br /><br />Notice also that in my last comment, I wished you happiness. And I do again, however you decide.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com